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Learning from life’s moments of impact

Water dropletI got home yesterday from an impromptu trip feeling tired both physically and emotionally. So I stayed in last night and gave myself permission to “veg.” Yes, on a Saturday night while most of my friends were getting in touch with their Irish side, I napped and watched romantic dramas…one after the other. It is exactly what I needed.

On the movie list was The Vow, 2012. If you don’t know the movie, it’s based on the actual relationship of a couple who was in an automobile accident just weeks after their marriage. The accident caused a brain injury for the woman, erasing all memory of her romance and marriage to her husband. It is the story of how the couple navigated this life-changing moment of impact. Read more

We come together to celebrate the HOPE of a new year

I started this New Year’s Eve blog earlier today and finally decided one hour before midnight in Saint Paul, Minnesota, I must hit send. (Happy New Year to my friends on the East Coast celebrating now!)

I am in awe of this night. For all it is…and all it promises.

The truth is, I have not always been a fan of New Year’s Eve. My new fascination has much to do with my personal transformation of the last two years. This year I simply could not let this day, this night, go by without a blog message from me to all of my friends and readers. The message is about HOPE. Read more

From 381 pounds to boot camp to half marathon

Two years ago, I weighed 360+ pounds and by this time of day, at 8:45 a.m., I was several hours into day one of a live-in weight loss boot camp where we worked out 6-8 hours per day, pushing way past what we thought were our physical limits.

Today, on the two-year anniversary of my official transformation start, Women’s Running Magazine featured my blog intheequation.com in their Blogger on the Run series. Read more

Helping others with self care & stress reduction

This past Thursday, I shared my transformation story on live TV on Speak Your Mind, a half-hour program on PBS (channel 8) in Duluth-Superior. The show is sponsored by the Human Development Center, a nonprofit mental health center that provides integrated mental health and addiction services fostering hope, self-determination, and recovery.

The topic of our show was: Stress Reduction and Self Care, and you can watch it here.

I was invited to be a guest on the show by host Carolyn Phelps, Ph.D., L.P., after she read my transformation story in Duluth Superior Magazine. Speak Your Mind is a call-in program designed to jumpstart the conversation in our communities about mental health issues and to encourage people to ask the questions theyโ€™ve always wanted to ask. I applaud the mission and was excited to make my TV debut on a program that really, truly helps people and on a subject that changed my life.

The heart of my transformation was about self-care. Two years ago, I was not practicing self-care – at all! I was not even in the equation of my own life. Working 12-18 hours per day, seven days a week to build my marketing firm, I had ballooned to my heaviest weight on record: 381 pounds. Yes, bigger than a professional NFL linebacker.

I was so attuned to my to-do list that I had forgotten to put myself โ€“ or my health โ€“ on that list. I was living a sedentary lifestyle on a diet of processed and fast food. My stress levels were out of control. Everything, including my relationships, suffered. I was both literally and figuratively dying.

My real transformation began the day I decided to focus on self-care. About that same time, hope walked through the work door. That hope and inspiration was O’Neal Hampton who was on Season 9 of NBC’s Biggest Loser with his daughter SunShine Hampton. O’Neal helped me believe I could do this. But I still had to take those first steps myself.

How did I do it?

  • I leapt despite my fear. I grabbed hold of the opportunity to change my life and grew stronger by pushing past the fear and accomplishing that of which I was most afraid. Yes, there is fear in doing anything transformational or big, but the strength, the courage and empowerment you feel when you push past it and succeed – well, WOW, it can’t be topped!
  • I set myself up for success by finding the right team of experts and support and developing a plan. That plan included a list of non-negotiables that would allow me to consistently be in the center of my equation and provide self-care, bar nothing.
  • My commitment and focus was 100% all in. I mean, I decided I would not quit – no matter what! And, most importantly, I learned to reset my mindset and restart when I slipped and had a bad day. Too often we beat ourselves up and throw in the towel when it gets really hard. I told myself, this time that was not an option.
  • Set short-term goals, milestones and challenges along the way and celebrated when I achieved them. And this time, I rewarded myself without food!

When you put yourself in the equation, everything else is better…

Self care for me was learning the important lesson that if I don’t take care of myself, not only am I not going to be around long term, but I can’t be there for everyone else. There is no question that I am happier, stronger, braver, more creative, more strategic and more fun today because I live life by taking care of myself first.

I am a better business owner, consultant, partner, daughter, sibling and friend because of it. I guarantee you that when you practice self-care — as Ann discusses in the piece and I am a living example — everything is better. Not just you, but everything around you. And this is an awesome gift to yourself and others!

Where to start…

My number one tip for those of you wondering how to begin is exactly what we discussed on the show.

Start by becoming mindful of where you are today. What are you practicing that serves you or not? What is standing in your way of making the time and commitment to put yourself first? What stories are you telling yourself about that?

Just notice. Maybe journal about it. Or, better, let’s start a dialogue here on my blog.

For me, it was lack of self-love and acceptance. Fear of inadequacy. Fear of failure. And yes, to some degree, even fear of success and a very different life that would result. Well, I am living that very different life right now and I have to say, it is awesome! ๐Ÿ™‚

Now is the time…

The holidays are a tough time for many of us when it comes to stress levels and self-care. The expectations and the pressures are high. I encourage to just become aware of where you fit in the equation of your life and think about what you are practicing. Are you practicing self-care? And what one thing might you do for yourself this holiday season to ensure that you are taking care of yourself.

Let me know where you are on this topic and how you practicing self-care, or not. Where do you need help? How can I inspire and support you?

Let me know what you think…

If you care to post a comment on the Speak Your Mind blog about our show on self-care and stress reduction, please click here. I would love your feedback and/or questions.

Lori

P.S. I am a huge fan of the Human Development Center and their work on mental health issues. If you are interested in learning more about work, please check them out here. You can also support them by providing a donation. Special thanks to Speak Your Mind host Dr. Carolyn Phelps, Ph.D, LP and Kim Matteen, Foundation Director. And finally, thanks to Jeanne Carpenter and Sue Bott who helped me prepare for my first ever live TV appearance. You ladies rock! ๐Ÿ™‚

 

 

 

Women’s Half Marathon photos bring experience to life

I received my official Women’s Half Marathon photos yesterday, two weeks after the race. They are fun photos of our group and bring the experience to life. I am already recruiting members for next year’s half marathon and looking for races in other parts of the country. ๐Ÿ™‚

You can see the entire photo gallery on our Flickr account here.

Me…a cover girl! Really?!

Today I saw the September issue of Duluth Superior Magazine for the first time. The issue is focused on spirituality and health and it hit newsstands this past week. And, I am the cover girl!

Yes, indeed, the cover features a photo of Leif Anderson, my transformation coach, holding me at my celebration party on the North Shore. Inside the magazine, you can read the story of my transformation titled, Changing the equation,” and a “how to” sidebar describing how I put myself in the center of the equation of my life and lost more than 200 pounds, 47.5% body fat, and became a fit, happy and active girl.

Cover girl

When Wendy Webb, the editor of Duluth Superior Magazine, saw the photo of Leif holding me she immediately suggested she wanted to run it with my personal essay. But it wasn’t until a week or two before printing that I learned the photo would appear on the cover of the magazine! When I first saw it, I had mixed feelings. Part of me was excited and happy — how fun to be a cover girl, right?! But another part of me was apprehensive…a bit self-conscious. Perhaps further proof that my head has not caught up with my transformation on the outside. Sometimes I still see the fat girl, not the newly transformed woman I am today. But I’m working on it!

Ironically, this cover photo almost didn’t happen. It was Leif’s idea to take the shot and I remember him trying to sell me on the idea. At the time, I didn’t grasp the magnitude of the moment. All I could think was that he wouldn’t be able to lift me or would hurt himself doing so.

It took a fair amount of coaxing from Leif (who reminded me that he knows exactly what I weigh) and some coaching from fellow Fitness North trainer Jay Grove to get the shot that now appears on the magazine cover. The truth is, it is the most fitting tribute to my transformation journey under Leif’s expert guidance. It shows both my transformation on the outside and our mutual happiness on the inside. It truly was one of the most memorable moments of my life. It’s not every day that a girl gets swept off her feet, right?! And if you are 350+ pounds, well, let’s just say “it ain’t gonna happen!”

So a special thank you to Leif Anderson for suggesting the photo and sharing in this special moment. To Jay Grove for the coaching to get the lift just right! And to both Leif and Jay for not letting my dress ride up! lol Finally, a big thank you to my friend and documentary photographer, Jean Voxland, for perfectly and beautifully capturing the moment. Jean also took my second favorite photo — the one of my mentor O’Neal Hampton and Leif hugging me — that appears inside the magazine. Another capstone shot on a perfect celebration party night.

Sharing my story…inspiring others

While appearing on the cover of the magazine is special, I am even more excited about the opportunity to tell the story of how I changed the equation, flipped my life upside down and, for the first time since I can remember, put myself and my health at the center of my life. In the process, I transformed my body and reignited my life. Duluth Superior Magazine gave me an opportunity to share my story to inspire others and to tell how I did it in a sidebar titled, “Five principles for putting yourself in the equation.”

I hope you will read the article here and let me know what you think. If you are someone who struggles to make time and space in your life to take care of you; feels things in your life are out of balance and your dreams are out of reach; or if you have significant weight to lose but can’t seem to get there on your own — to you, my message is simple: YOU CAN DO THIS!ย  There is no question that if I can do it, YOU can do it too. It is within your grasp. And like O’Neal and Leif did for me, I am here to help. Connect with me here and let’s chat. Life on the other side of fear is a blast and you deserve true happiness. We all do.

Cheers!

Lori

P.S. You can read the full article and sidebar in PDF form here. The magazine can be purchased on major newsstands in Duluth and the North Shore region. As of now, I cannot find it in the Twin Cities but hope there will be a link online soon.

**Special thanks to my new friend Julie Slowiak from Duluth who purchased magazines and sent them to me! ๐Ÿ™‚

 

From “fat” girl” in an office chair to “fit girl” knocking out a half marathon

YES! I just completed my first-ever half marathon and am grinning from ear to ear! It was an amazing experience. I feel great. Really. And, there is a big part of me that wants to go do it all again.

My official finish time was 3 hours and 11 minutes. I walked a 14.35 min mile on average — my fastest ever. Because of issues with knees and joints, I am discouraged from running. So I walked the race — though the desire to run is great.

Leif Anderson, my incredible transformation coach, walked the entire half marathon with me and encouraged me to run/jog at a couple of points near the end of the race so we could finish under 3:15. (Thank You Leif! You are amazing. You know exactly when to push and how to help me achieve my goals and “reach my full potential.” I am grateful to have had you by my side today. Another significant milestone/culmination in our journey together.)

Seven of us, including Leif, participated in the Half Marathon. The truly remarkable part of the story: ALL (except coach Leif) were obese and inactive just two years ago. Collectively, the six of us have lost a total of 750 pounds in under 2 years! And, ALL of us completed a 13.1 mile marathon in under 4 hours either running and/or walking. Congratulations and thank you to these amazing women for sharing the experience. From Fitness North #4 they are: Joyce Deiter-Cunningham, Deb Frie, Linda Koenig, Karen St. Louis and Julie Langenbrunner Wolleat.

In the end, we went back for a “team member” and walked her to the finish line as a group. According to my Fitbit, I walked a total of 17.8 miles and 32,300 steps (and 69 flights) — all before noon! Cardio for the day completed. Check!

From “fat girl” to “fit girl”

If you had told me two years ago that I would be competing in a half marathon I would have asked if you had been drinking…heavily. When I was working 12-18 hour days running my marketing business and leading a sedentary life from an office chair, I would never have imagined that I could accomplish anything remotely like this. I struggled to walk to the end of my block, let alone 13.1 miles.

But less than two years later — sans 200+ pounds and a whole lot of self-doubt — well, here I am. A half-marathoner with a medal around her neck, a BIG smile of accomplishment on her face, and a lot of gratitude for all of the help and support along the way!

This half marathon came about earlier this year when a group of women from Fitness North signed up as a team to participate in the Lady’s Speed Stick Women’s Half Marathon in Bloomington, MN. I reluctantly agreed to participate (at some urging from Leif) thinking I would do it with/for Leif Anderson Fitness. It seemed far off when I committed so I wasn’t that worried.

It wasn’t until about two months ago that I got serious about preparing for the 13. 1 mile race and embarked on a race walking training program. My trainer, Sandra Swami, showed me the correct form for race walking and coached me in race strategies. I marked my calendar and followed the training program religiously for about a month. In July, I did the Tofte Trek 10K Wilderness Run on my beloved North Shore of Lake Superior. We walked up mountains and through tall grass and navigated big mud holes, and I finished at a pace of about a 15.45 min mile. I felt fit and strong. And, I began to embrace the half marathon as “my race” vs. doing it for someone else.

I set some personal goals including completing the half marathon in a 15 min mile or less; being at my all-time lowest weight and final resting place by marathon day; and being in the best physical shape of my adult life. At the time, this all seemed very doable.

Doubt creeps in and threatens my resolve

Then, life happened. In early July, I had a long-awaited leg surgery. This set my marathon training back by 2-3 weeks and I had to build up my leg strength and stamina post surgery. Work got crazy busy and work challenges demanded way more of my time making it difficult to juggle with my training. Just two weeks out from the marathon, work travel took me off my training program forย  a week and right after knee problems resurfaced.

About the same time, I began to struggle to stick to my nutritional program and I put on some weight moving farther from my goal to be at an all-time low by marathon. I then learned that I may indeed need to walk the half marathon alone — the Fitness North group expected to run/walk and would likely outpace me and Leif’s ability to race was uncertain. Finally, there was a bit of fear of the unknown associated with competing in my first race. And, with that fear, came self-doubt. For these reasons, I strongly considered not competing.

Certainly, I had legitimate reasons for throwing in the towel. But, really, were they reasons or just fear? Ultimately, my stubbornness and determination won out. I decided I would not let fear stop me. Or a knee. Or the fact that the training didn’t go exactly as planned. I knew that I would be more disappointed if I didn’t try.

And so, I forged ahead. I adjusted my goals to competing and finishing in under the four hour limit – an 18 min mile. And, I implemented the strategies that worked so well for me in achieving my weight loss goals and putting myself in the equation.

  1. I pushed past the fear and self-doubt to just do it.
  2. I asked for help from my support team.
  3. I wrote about it in my blog – a way of processing it and keeping myself accountable.
  4. And, I celebrated my progress in getting to this place vs. focusing on the arbitrary weight goal I had set for myself by race time.

Support team kicks in

There is no question that this race would have been far more difficult and less fun without the support of an incredible team of people. This of course starts with the other Fitness North women who participated – Deb, Julie, Linda, Joyce, and Karen. My other Fitness North friends and colleagues who have shared this journey – Shari Blair Cummelin, Lori Martin and Jean Forrey. All three provided emotional and cheer-leading support and Shari and Lori both agreed to walk sections of the race with me if need be – even when it was not easy or best for them to do so.

My rock star trainer, Sandra Swami, prepared me for the race with training, race strategies and pep talks. And, taught me how to warm up and stretch properly pre- and post-race. Finally, my transformation coach and friend Leif Anderson, drove from Duluth to walk with me the entire race at a great personal sacrifice. He became my time-keeper/pacer, the on-course motivator, and coached me to a better time than I know I would have achieved on my own. It was incredible having him there.

The lessons in all of this? I am reminded that:

  • I can do anything I set my mind to – absolutely anything!
  • When I am feeling negative and the excuses come fast and easy, fear is likely hiding beneath those excuses. Pushing past that fear to accomplish that which you did not think you could doย  is THE most amazing feeling in the world;
  • Sometimes we all need a little help. It can make ALL the difference;
  • It feels totally incredibly to be fit, active and happy…inside and out.

So to those of you on the sidelines today who think you can’t do something – anything – I give you this. You CAN do it! I KNOW you can. Look at me and my story. Look at this amazing group of kick butt women who raced with me today. We are living proof. We are your inspiration and hope. And today, we all wear a medal around our neck with a sporty hot pink ribbon to prove it.

Anything is possible! Absolutely anything! I can’t wait to see what’s next…for me and for you.

Cheers.
Lori

Click here to view photo gallery from Women’s Half Marathon

One week from today…another challenge

At this time next week, I expect I will have completed my first ever half-marathon (13.1 miles). I am walking the Lady’s Speed Stick Half Marathon in Bloomington on Aug. 26 with the goal of crossing the finish line in under 4 hours (which is when they kick you off the course! That’s an 18-min mile). Read more

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